Gay guys tend to ask how they can get their partners to stop watching porn while straight guys ask how they can get their partners to start.
To wit, my answer to a guy who couldn’t get his girlfriend to fondle the remote:
Do what a porn director does–put it in the best light. Ask her to watch porn and you’ll get a flat no. Ask her to embark on a joint sexual journey and you’ll be watching the bompa-bompa-chicka-wow-wow together in no time.
The reason you have to go through all this nonsense is because you are, ahem, asking her to watch other women turn you on. Not exactly hitting an emotional G-spot with that one. Read the rest of this entry »
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It wasn’t just the higher penis to vagina ratio that aroused guest blogger Susan Walsh. It was the passion.
I propose that straight men try watching gay porn for a change, so they can learn what women want. What, you don’t find that intuitively obvious? It actually makes perfect sense. I can explain. Research shows that online porn is the single largest source of sexual information for young men. They watch it alone, and they also watch it in groups with other guys as a bonding activity.
(What does a room full of straight guys do when they all have boners at 3pm? Just wondering.)
Recently I was researching an article about the role of porn as an influence on sexual behavior. After consulting the academic literature, I hung out on both straight and gay male porn sites for…well, for a while.
(It’s amazing how a whole day can just fly by when you’re enjoying your work!)
What I found on straight porn sites was pretty much what I expected, but I was astounded by what I saw in gay porn. Especially amazing was the contrast between the two. As a straight woman, I found the straight porn repulsive. It was unbearably phony and mechanical. It was also very demeaning to women in many cases. But the gay porn? It was arousing. I hadn’t expected that!
(I figured it had to be the higher penis to vagina ratio, i.e. infinite.)
I decided to spend more time, um, trying to figure it out.
(Whoa! There went Tuesday!)
Why does it matter what kind of porn guys watch?
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Well, on the one hand…
Today pornography has absolutely no effect on me whatsoever, except as a mild depressant over what’s obviously expected from me as a female these days — all the care and polishing involved with the breast implants, for example, or all the exacting topiary skills needed for uber-precise pube grooming and whatnot. It does a number on you, I swear.
I know what she means. Just like video lust can make women think less of their bust, it can make guys think less of their…
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