If you meet on a hookup site and you don’t hookup, good luck trying to get out of the friends zone.
So, I met this guy on a hookup site strictly as friends. I’ve got a major crush on him but I can’t tell if he wants to date or just be friends. We go out a lot and always have lots of fun together but nothing ever happens and I’m too scared to try. I’m afraid he might not want to be friends if I come out and tell him I want to date. And to complicate things even more, he’s 15 years older than I am! What should I do?
—Frisky but risky
Dear Frisky:
Okay, let me get this straight. You met a guy on “Dick Central,” haven’t gotten so much as a kiss and you’re still wondering if he’s interested in you? Dude, your cluelessness…it’s dripping on my wood floors.
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May 14th, 2010 at 11:07 am
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How do you restore your reputation when you’ve slept with half of the city by the time you’re 19?
From a reader:
When I was younger I was a tad promiscuous, sleeping with half of the city by the time I was 19. I don’t regret it because I enjoy sex and it was my own choice. I still have sex but not nearly as much as I used to. The thing is, because of my past, it’s making it kinda harder for me to find a boyfriend. Whenever I meet someone new they either know me as a slut or they find out through their friends. How can I get past my “reputation” to land a lover?
– Tainted
Dear Tainted:
I’d rather hear that you’ve stopped plugging every opening you walked by because it’s no longer fulfilling, not because you’re scared of what people will think. If you’re serious about taming that Access of Evil between your legs, you’ve got a few options, but before we go into that, allow me a rant: Read the rest of this entry »
April 29th, 2010 at 7:00 am
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Why you’re better off going to his place for the hookup.
You trade pics. Hubba Hubba. You arrange to meet. Your place for drinks. He walks in. You say, “Is that a gun in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?”
A convicted felon accused of targeting gay men who were looking for dates online was charged with kidnapping, robbery, carjacking and other crimes in Superior Court Monday.
Angel Pena Ayala, 24, who was on parole for a previous carjacking conviction, was arrested Friday and pleaded not guilty Monday in Torrance Superior Court, said Los Angeles County district attorney’s officials.
He was charged with eight felony counts, including the allegation that the crimes were committed for a street gang.
Hermosa Beach police said Ayala placed an online ad on Craigslist.org in the personals section and met his victim at the man’s home in Hermosa Beach in March.
Authorities accused him of pulling a handgun on the man and ordering him to put his TV, computer and camera into his car.
April 27th, 2010 at 9:08 am
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Feeling that you cheated on your boyfriend because you flirted with guys is like saying you cheated on your diet because you smelled some sausages.
The rules are different in the gay dating world. Men understand each other better than women do. Every guy looks at other guys –I don’t care how in love they are. You achieve monogamy through discipline, not mind-control; through resisting actions not thoughts. My God, if I were judged by my thoughts I’d have been shot more times than a black man innocently bumping into white cops.
Feeling that you cheated on your boyfriend because you flirted with guys is like saying you cheated on your diet because you smelled some sausages. Just like smelling something delicious won’t ruin your diet, flirting with guys won’t ruin your relationship. Though I have to say, it depends on what you mean by flirting.
I think the first thing you need to do is get a sense of proportion about what constitutes cheating. Here’s an index I built for a seminar I led about monogamy:
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April 20th, 2010 at 10:30 am
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Does this pic look like Grindr should ban it? Well, it did, because–get this–it shows part of his underwear.
Apparently, Apple’s iPad went iWOL when it saw some of the naughty pics on Grindr, the gay GPS app. So Grindr went on a sex panic and, effective immediately, set ridiculously tight photo rules to keep in Apple’s good graces. They’ve never allowed naked photos in their main profile pics, but they’ve gone Southern Baptist on the gays. Here are some of the new rules for meeting gay men, Grindr-style:
* No bare skin below the waistline (hip bone area).
* No underwear can be visible. Swimwear must follow the bare skin rule above.
* Pants and shorts must be worn normally, buttoned, and not pulled or hanging down.
* No nudity (particularly the genitals) covered up by a towel, hat or other means.
* No photos with sheer, or otherwise see-through or wet material below the waist.
Also, you can’t say how big your dick is, whether you’re a top or bottom, or whether you’re cut. Well that just about cuts the gay date conversation in half, doesn’t it?
To see more examples of the kind of pictures Grindr is banning click here, to the good folks at Queerty.
