Comments on: For Gay Men: The one sentence secret to getting a relationship. http://www.mikealvear.com/2009/06/30/for-gay-men-the-one-sentence-secret-to-getting-a-relationship/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=for-gay-men-the-one-sentence-secret-to-getting-a-relationship Gay Dating Central Mon, 13 Feb 2012 07:16:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: A non-eMouse http://www.mikealvear.com/2009/06/30/for-gay-men-the-one-sentence-secret-to-getting-a-relationship/#comment-14470 A non-eMouse Fri, 26 Aug 2011 13:27:02 +0000 http://www.mikealvear.com/?p=3302#comment-14470 I disagree with the comments for this post. The guy writing in is like me, if I have the type correctly. In the past I've been clingy, emotional, and somewhat dissatisfied with all of my attempts at finding someone. At this point, I have accepted that I'm not going to find someone by searching all of the time. I still have dating site profiles, but I've been working on my self development. My first concern right now is to improve myself in the ways that I feel are important. Accepting that it is a very real possibility that I will be alone for the rest of my life has turned my attention to the fact that I'm not a very good "life partner" to myself. Not being a big believer in complete "inner peace", I nevertheless am trying to improve my self-discipline and self-honesty. Afterall, I'm the person that I has to be around me the most. I disagree with the comments for this post. The guy writing in is like me, if I have the type correctly. In the past I’ve been clingy, emotional, and somewhat dissatisfied with all of my attempts at finding someone. At this point, I have accepted that I’m not going to find someone by searching all of the time. I still have dating site profiles, but I’ve been working on my self development. My first concern right now is to improve myself in the ways that I feel are important.

Accepting that it is a very real possibility that I will be alone for the rest of my life has turned my attention to the fact that I’m not a very good “life partner” to myself. Not being a big believer in complete “inner peace”, I nevertheless am trying to improve my self-discipline and self-honesty. Afterall, I’m the person that I has to be around me the most.

]]> By: Gary http://www.mikealvear.com/2009/06/30/for-gay-men-the-one-sentence-secret-to-getting-a-relationship/#comment-12233 Gary Fri, 25 Mar 2011 04:23:43 +0000 http://www.mikealvear.com/?p=3302#comment-12233 That was a terrible response. This guy may be unhappy on occasion but that's probably because he's kind of depressed and the condition is damaging his self-esteem. Where did you get the idea he was looking for bliss? What he seems to be saying is that he's having some trouble connecting with people emotionally. Sometimes it's enough just to listen and acknowledge. Maybe you could start there. He's asking for your help, not thoughtless remarks about "people like you." That was a terrible response. This guy may be unhappy on occasion but that’s probably because he’s kind of depressed and the condition is damaging his self-esteem. Where did you get the idea he was looking for bliss? What he seems to be saying is that he’s having some trouble connecting with people emotionally. Sometimes it’s enough just to listen and acknowledge. Maybe you could start there. He’s asking for your help, not thoughtless remarks about “people like you.”

]]> By: Bob http://www.mikealvear.com/2009/06/30/for-gay-men-the-one-sentence-secret-to-getting-a-relationship/#comment-12094 Bob Sun, 27 Feb 2011 21:36:37 +0000 http://www.mikealvear.com/?p=3302#comment-12094 That was an extremely rude and hurtful response. People learn from their mistakes, this guy is obviously confused and isn't sure what he wants, being negative towards him won't help, just because you have your own opinion that happiness will bring boyfriends that doesn't give you the right to criticize others. He's only telling you how he feels about what HE has experienced. My opinion; your a over confident person who is Brainwashed. That was an extremely rude and hurtful response.

People learn from their mistakes, this guy is obviously confused and isn’t sure what he wants, being negative towards him won’t help, just because you have your own opinion that happiness will bring boyfriends that doesn’t give you the right to criticize others. He’s only telling you how he feels about what HE has experienced.

My opinion; your a over confident person who is Brainwashed.

]]> By: Bob http://www.mikealvear.com/2009/06/30/for-gay-men-the-one-sentence-secret-to-getting-a-relationship/#comment-12093 Bob Sun, 27 Feb 2011 21:35:32 +0000 http://www.mikealvear.com/?p=3302#comment-12093 That was an extremely rude and hurtful response. People learn from their mistakes, this guy is obviously confused and isn't sure what he wants, being negative towards him won't help, just because you have your own opinion that happiness will bring boyfriends that doesn't give you the right to criticize others. My opinion; your a over confident person who is Brainwashed. That was an extremely rude and hurtful response.

People learn from their mistakes, this guy is obviously confused and isn’t sure what he wants, being negative towards him won’t help, just because you have your own opinion that happiness will bring boyfriends that doesn’t give you the right to criticize others.

My opinion; your a over confident person who is Brainwashed.

]]> By: vinny http://www.mikealvear.com/2009/06/30/for-gay-men-the-one-sentence-secret-to-getting-a-relationship/#comment-11052 vinny Wed, 29 Dec 2010 04:22:49 +0000 http://www.mikealvear.com/?p=3302#comment-11052 If you read this question, Lost&Desperate is saying 2 different things: He wants some hot cock and he wants a relationship. Sorry, most of the time you can't have both. Mike is right, the guy needs to stop, think, and act. The approach thing just takes practice and accept the fact you get rejected sometimes. Dating hot guys sounds like sex to me and those hot guys are doing the same thing, so if you think you can be in a bf relationship with them you are dreaming. If you read this question, Lost&Desperate is saying 2 different things: He wants some hot cock and he wants a relationship. Sorry, most of the time you can’t have both. Mike is right, the guy needs to stop, think, and act. The approach thing just takes practice and accept the fact you get rejected sometimes. Dating hot guys sounds like sex to me and those hot guys are doing the same thing, so if you think you can be in a bf relationship with them you are dreaming.

]]> By: Jason http://www.mikealvear.com/2009/06/30/for-gay-men-the-one-sentence-secret-to-getting-a-relationship/#comment-3670 Jason Tue, 20 Jul 2010 16:16:35 +0000 http://www.mikealvear.com/?p=3302#comment-3670 That is a really nasty response to somebody who is obviously hurting. Shame on you. That is a really nasty response to somebody who is obviously hurting. Shame on you.

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