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	<title>Comments on: Gay Marriage: I&#8217;m gay, but I ain&#8217;t sold on it.</title>
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		<title>By: Glenn</title>
		<link>http://www.mikealvear.com/2009/04/05/iowa-im-gay-but-i-aint-sold-on-your-marriage-ruling/comment-page-1/#comment-2159</link>
		<dc:creator>Glenn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 24 Jan 2010 15:06:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>and learn what oppression is. Someone saying no is not oppression. stop playing the victim. Taking marriage seriously is not opression. Theer should be rules in everything and if monogamy is a sensible rule for marriage, whats the problem. It only shows how selfish  and indignant our community is if they cant be serious and take good advise. Dancing around naked isnt freedom. building families and homes and making our greta society is our responsibility. making strong families will contribute to that. being told not sleeping around and take marriage seriously is oppressive to you? Please!!!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>and learn what oppression is. Someone saying no is not oppression. stop playing the victim. Taking marriage seriously is not opression. Theer should be rules in everything and if monogamy is a sensible rule for marriage, whats the problem. It only shows how selfish  and indignant our community is if they cant be serious and take good advise. Dancing around naked isnt freedom. building families and homes and making our greta society is our responsibility. making strong families will contribute to that. being told not sleeping around and take marriage seriously is oppressive to you? Please!!!</p>
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		<title>By: Glenn</title>
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		<dc:creator>Glenn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 24 Jan 2010 13:25:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Women cheat just as much as men. So it has nothign to do with gender. And these swingers are ridiculed amongst many str8s. Let&#039;s remember, the issue of family values has a stronger faction among the heterosexuals than the gay scene. No one is saying that the str8s are perfect, but there are still taboos that are understood. Where such constructs have really been enforced amongst gays. There is still the assumption of monogamy in marriage period. And some jurisdictions still allow divorce to be a legitimate factor in divorce. Its not even about rights and thats what making us look foolish. A lot of it is about taxes and money. Marriage has always had stipualtions and carried with it priviledges and drawbacks. The author warning gays to take marriage seriously is not making gays look bad, but making them look good. The one&#039;s that like swinging and sleeping around are the one&#039;s that make gays look bad. Great article and list. Its funny how anytime someone asks the gays to be more accountible and sensible, people go on the attack. What makes us look bad is our activists defending bathroom sex or public exposure or even supporting the NAMBLA cause. what is wrong with gay and lesbian and bisexual couples fightign for monogamy and family values? We cant let the religious right be proven right. Maybe str8 make simialr mistakes, but at least there are those within their ranks that will push for stability, even if it doesnt always happen.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Women cheat just as much as men. So it has nothign to do with gender. And these swingers are ridiculed amongst many str8s. Let&#8217;s remember, the issue of family values has a stronger faction among the heterosexuals than the gay scene. No one is saying that the str8s are perfect, but there are still taboos that are understood. Where such constructs have really been enforced amongst gays. There is still the assumption of monogamy in marriage period. And some jurisdictions still allow divorce to be a legitimate factor in divorce. Its not even about rights and thats what making us look foolish. A lot of it is about taxes and money. Marriage has always had stipualtions and carried with it priviledges and drawbacks. The author warning gays to take marriage seriously is not making gays look bad, but making them look good. The one&#8217;s that like swinging and sleeping around are the one&#8217;s that make gays look bad. Great article and list. Its funny how anytime someone asks the gays to be more accountible and sensible, people go on the attack. What makes us look bad is our activists defending bathroom sex or public exposure or even supporting the NAMBLA cause. what is wrong with gay and lesbian and bisexual couples fightign for monogamy and family values? We cant let the religious right be proven right. Maybe str8 make simialr mistakes, but at least there are those within their ranks that will push for stability, even if it doesnt always happen.</p>
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		<title>By: Gayle Madwin</title>
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		<dc:creator>Gayle Madwin</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 03 Dec 2009 03:30:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>This is the most homophobic thing I&#039;ve read in a long time. I&#039;m gay and I&#039;ve never had a three-way in my life, nor ever particularly wanted one. I&#039;m engaged to be married, but we waited nearly a year after the proposal before moving in together. We do not have an open relationship, and we have no interest in Internet trolling. Now can we get married, please? I don&#039;t want to wait until I&#039;m 40.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This is the most homophobic thing I&#8217;ve read in a long time. I&#8217;m gay and I&#8217;ve never had a three-way in my life, nor ever particularly wanted one. I&#8217;m engaged to be married, but we waited nearly a year after the proposal before moving in together. We do not have an open relationship, and we have no interest in Internet trolling. Now can we get married, please? I don&#8217;t want to wait until I&#8217;m 40.</p>
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		<title>By: Dr. Hoff</title>
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		<dc:creator>Dr. Hoff</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Nov 2009 02:15:24 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Mark, I think you have the wrong definition for gender...and either way, this is generally for satire. Take it with a grain of salt. Mario, I think it is the homosexuals who DO engage in said behavior above that give us the bad name...not Tony. Maybe if we stop trying to dichotomize everything and ostracizing heterosexuals, and focus on AMERICA as a whole and not just the gay community, then things MIGHT start to get accomplished.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Mark, I think you have the wrong definition for gender&#8230;and either way, this is generally for satire. Take it with a grain of salt. Mario, I think it is the homosexuals who DO engage in said behavior above that give us the bad name&#8230;not Tony. Maybe if we stop trying to dichotomize everything and ostracizing heterosexuals, and focus on AMERICA as a whole and not just the gay community, then things MIGHT start to get accomplished.</p>
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		<title>By: Todd in NV</title>
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		<dc:creator>Todd in NV</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 16 Oct 2009 05:52:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>With opinions like this, who needs Republicans to oppress us ?

Oppress yourself !  

Equaity is only for straight people !

Let your own jelousy of couples dedicated to one-another rule your life !</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>With opinions like this, who needs Republicans to oppress us ?</p>
<p>Oppress yourself !  </p>
<p>Equaity is only for straight people !</p>
<p>Let your own jelousy of couples dedicated to one-another rule your life !</p>
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		<title>By: I want my lesbian daughter's relationship legitimized. Gay Marriage &#124; Mike Alvear's Urge &#38; Merge</title>
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		<dc:creator>I want my lesbian daughter's relationship legitimized. Gay Marriage &#124; Mike Alvear's Urge &#38; Merge</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 31 May 2009 22:44:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] I&#8217;m gay and not sold on gay marriage [...]</description>
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		<title>By: Gay marriage: The protest I can't get up off the couch for. California gay marriage &#124; Mike Alvear's Urge &#38; Merge</title>
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		<dc:creator>Gay marriage: The protest I can't get up off the couch for. California gay marriage &#124; Mike Alvear's Urge &#38; Merge</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 30 May 2009 14:18:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] I&#8217;m gay and not sold on gay marriage [...]</description>
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		<title>By: christina</title>
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		<dc:creator>christina</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 06 May 2009 12:41:55 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dear Tony, You&#039;re against marriage, period.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Tony, You&#8217;re against marriage, period.</p>
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		<title>By: Judith</title>
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		<dc:creator>Judith</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Apr 2009 22:10:01 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>That&#039;s what a WWII vet told me: If we were to acknowledge gays in the military, we&#039;d have to thank them for our victory in WWII. He thought the gay soldiers (himself included) were among the best, most loyal servicemen. I&#039;d like to say Thank You, Mark.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>That&#8217;s what a WWII vet told me: If we were to acknowledge gays in the military, we&#8217;d have to thank them for our victory in WWII. He thought the gay soldiers (himself included) were among the best, most loyal servicemen. I&#8217;d like to say Thank You, Mark.</p>
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		<title>By: Mark</title>
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		<dc:creator>Mark</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Apr 2009 19:26:02 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Oh, and living in a military town, DADT should be eliminated.

Our Gay bars would be half empty if military and retired military members stopped coming. This doesn&#039;t count the others who just use the internet.

If you live in a small town, have heard all your family or friends make remarks about gays, you are gay and you want to get away, what is a good option? The Military.

Many Gay men join the military; you prove your a man, you don&#039;t get as many questions about why you are not married, you get out of your town and move to a big city, you travel, and maybe because you also would be around hot men all day.

Don&#039;t Ask, Don&#039;t Tell? I think the military guys just don&#039;t wanna know exactly how many there are in the military. They may have to thank us for helping the country all of these years.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Oh, and living in a military town, DADT should be eliminated.</p>
<p>Our Gay bars would be half empty if military and retired military members stopped coming. This doesn&#8217;t count the others who just use the internet.</p>
<p>If you live in a small town, have heard all your family or friends make remarks about gays, you are gay and you want to get away, what is a good option? The Military.</p>
<p>Many Gay men join the military; you prove your a man, you don&#8217;t get as many questions about why you are not married, you get out of your town and move to a big city, you travel, and maybe because you also would be around hot men all day.</p>
<p>Don&#8217;t Ask, Don&#8217;t Tell? I think the military guys just don&#8217;t wanna know exactly how many there are in the military. They may have to thank us for helping the country all of these years.</p>
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