WTF?  

Why would women who love women watch sex between two men?   It’s a head-scratcher but the phenomenon is true.  Ask any lesbian and she’ll tell you, if she doesn’t watch gay porn she knows a lesbian who does.  

Here’s my take on it:  Most lesbians have a heightened awareness of how men have oppressed women and straight porn is often Exhibit A in that exploitation.  In gay porn, the bottoms (traditionally like women, receivers) are often just as ‘powerful’ as tops (traditionally, like men, givers).  So while it’s still male-on-male sex, there’s a power dynamic at work that appeals to lesbian political and personal sensibilities.  They’re not so much looking at the “players” in the play, but the roles they’re playing.  

Then there’s the impatience angle.  Lesbian porn takes FOREVER to get to the sex.  All that crap about love, intimacy and emotional connections takes up half the DVD.  As one lesbian fan of gay porn told me:

“I like gay porn because the actors having sex are unencumbered by a U-Haul.  It all boils down to different philosophies.  Men:  Fuck it or kill it.  Lesbians:  Take it to the vet or adopt it.” 

Third, a lot of lesbians are turned on by masculinity, so they get off on hot male bodies.  Not because they want to have sex with them but because they internalize and then express the masculinity they see onscreen (Comic Lea Delaria has a hilarious line about that: “It’s not that lesbians don’t like dick; it’s that we don’t like them on men!”).  

 

And finally, there’s my strap-on dildo theory.  Lots of lesbians use them.  They have to learn how and if straight porn isn’t going to show it and lesbian porn is too boring, then what’s left to show them how to use a tool they weren’t born with?

 

Sex is so interesting.  What makes no sense to you makes perfect sense to somebody else.    I’m like most people–when it comes to porn, I only want to see who I want to shtup.  Period, end of stroke.