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Why do Lesbians watch Gay Porn?

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WTF?  

Why would women who love women watch sex between two men?   It’s a head-scratcher but the phenomenon is true.  Ask any lesbian and she’ll tell you, if she doesn’t watch gay porn she knows a lesbian who does.  

Here’s my take on it:  Most lesbians have a heightened awareness of how men have oppressed women and straight porn is often Exhibit A in that exploitation.  In gay porn, the bottoms (traditionally like women, receivers) are often just as ‘powerful’ as tops (traditionally, like men, givers).  So while it’s still male-on-male sex, there’s a power dynamic at work that appeals to lesbian political and personal sensibilities.  They’re not so much looking at the “players” in the play, but the roles they’re playing.  

Then there’s the impatience angle.  Lesbian porn takes FOREVER to get to the sex.  All that crap about love, intimacy and emotional connections takes up half the DVD.  As one lesbian fan of gay porn told me:

“I like gay porn because the actors having sex are unencumbered by a U-Haul.  It all boils down to different philosophies.  Men:  Fuck it or kill it.  Lesbians:  Take it to the vet or adopt it.” 

Third, a lot of lesbians are turned on by masculinity, so they get off on hot male bodies.  Not because they want to have sex with them but because they internalize and then express the masculinity they see onscreen (Comic Lea Delaria has a hilarious line about that: “It’s not that lesbians don’t like dick; it’s that we don’t like them on men!”).  

 

And finally, there’s my strap-on dildo theory.  Lots of lesbians use them.  They have to learn how and if straight porn isn’t going to show it and lesbian porn is too boring, then what’s left to show them how to use a tool they weren’t born with?

 

Sex is so interesting.  What makes no sense to you makes perfect sense to somebody else.    I’m like most people–when it comes to porn, I only want to see who I want to shtup.  Period, end of stroke.

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  4. Jake

    Rosie O’Donnell watches gay porn. She says she watches it because the men love what they are doing and you can see that.


  5. It would be curious to see if the reverse is true? Do gay men enjoy lesbian porn?


  6. I assure you the reverse is NOT true. When we watch straight porn we usually watch it with one eye closed to block off the woman. We’d have to close both if we watched lesbo porn!! ;>)

  7. jj

    I am another lesbian that likes gay male porn.
    At first, honestly, it grossed me out, just like straight porn does, because of, um, men.
    But then it turned me on because it’s still sex and I’m a bit of a closet voyeur.
    And gay porn is the best because they really look like they are into it. It’s also fun to see guys top each other.
    I like power and there is a bit of power play with gay porn.
    Unfortunately, most lesbian porn is horrendous. It either looks completely contrived and boring as if a frat boy was telling two bimbos what to do to each other, or worse, the “real” lesbian porn is filled with unattractive girls I don’t ever want to see naked.
    Most lesbian porn sucks and perpetuates one of two stereotypes: that girls are having sex with other girls for the pleasure of men and that real lesbians are ugly.
    Until they make believable and sexy lesbian porn, I’m sticking with men on men.


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  10. Abe

    The reason why a lot of lesbians like porn is because they are conflicted. It is not PC to say but most Lesbians CHOOSE at some level to be lesbians. I have learned this by working and playing around them for years. Gay men are born Gay-period. A lot of lesbians are emotionally turned off by men but still feel the underlying physical urge to be with or at least fantasize about men at some level. To look at men in straight porn they see exploitation so they go to look at gay male porn to satisfy what emotionally they may find unpalatable.

  11. Christie

    Abe’s close but reached all the wrong conclusions, IMO.

    I believe men tend to be more monosexual – they tend
    to go one way or the other. Women tend to be more bisexual – sexually flexible to both genders.

    Look at real world demographics – gay men usually outnumber gay women. However, bisexual women are roughly equal to bisexual men in number. And that’s not counting the huge number of ‘straight’ women who regularly express bisexual behaviour.

    Straight women are more appreciative of the beauty of their own gender than straight men. Straight women kiss other women easily, and will admit to liking it or being unaffected by it – straight men usually express disgust at the mere thought. Some self-described straight women watch lesbian porn, self-described straight men never watch gay porn.

    How many times have you heard a straight women say: “I’m straight but she’s so beautiful she could change me.” You don’t hear it the other way around half as much, whether in real life or in the anonymity of the internet.

    Even some scientific research seems to suggest that women are more sexually flexible. I believe it was the Kinsey Institute which did a study on female genital responses to witnessing different forms of sexual activity – genitally, women were reacting to a great range of stimuli, even if consciously and mentally, they weren’t as appreciative.

    It’s for that reason that I think self-described lesbians who enjoy gay porn are in fact bi-SEXUAL on some level, but homoromantic (capable of being turned on by both, but only enjoy love and relationships with women).


  12. I’m pretty certain that most women, including queer women, who enjoy watching porn enjoy a diverse mixture of “straight”, “gay”, “lesbian”, “bisexual” “transgender” & “queer” porn. I think a quite significant number of male porn consumers do as well, but it’s worth noting that QueerPorn.TV is a woman owned and operated porn site – which people of all genders contribute to.

  13. Jenny

    Not every lesbian porn is boring the way that you described… just saying

  14. t

    I’m a lesbian who likes gay porn simply because the guys genuinely look like they’re into the sex; that’s what makes it so hot.

    My favorite gay porn star is Pierre Fitch, by the way. He has a lot of lesbian fans, whether he knows it or not.


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