A Third Wheel In Bed Can Make You Feel Like A Second Banana.
From a reader: My boyfriend of only a few weeks has expressed interest in threesomes since Day One. Its not like he comes out and says it, but its obvious he’s curious about it. I’ve expressed my dislike but I don’t want to push him away. My problem with the three-way thing is the “third wheel” phenomenon where someone almost always ends up feeling like they’re not part of the bicycle. How do I talk to my boyfriend about my concerns without scaring him off?
–Third wheel fears.
Dear Third Wheel:
Math problems tend to illuminate most relationship problems, so do a quick one for me. You’re driving a bus from London to Milford Haven in Wales. In London, 17 people get on the bus. In Reading, six people get off the bus and nine people get on. In Swindon, two people get off and four get on. In Cardiff, 11 people get off and 16 people get in. In Swansea, three people get off and five people get on. In Carmathen, six people get off and three get on. You then arrive at Milford Haven. Now what was the name of the bus driver?
She Wanted The Right To Express Her Disgust In Counseling Sessions. Judge Says Not So Fast.
Judge upholds Augusta State University’s requirement that a graduate student read material about counseling gays and increase her exposure to that community after she objected to counseling homosexual clients was “academically legitimate,” a federal court judge ruled Friday.
U.S. District Judge Randal Hall’s decision enables university officials to expel Jennifer Keeton if she does not follow the remediation plan, which professors designed to “address issues of multicultural competence and develop understanding and empathy.”
Hall said the case is not about “pitting Christianity against homosexuality,” but rather the constitutionality of the school’s requirement.
Professors asked Keeton to complete the remediation plan after she said she opposed homosexuality and would tell gay clients “their behavior is morally wrong and then help the client change that behavior,” according to an affidavit filed in the case.
Stick to positive comments. Nobody wants to date cynical, bitter people–that’s what friends are for.
From a reader: First off, I’d like to congratulate you for being such a medically correct funny, heartless gay bastard. I like your column so much I went out to buy your queer-ass ebooks. But I digress… I have to sound off! I think gay dating has gone stale for me and I’m in dire need of help. I find myself asking the same boring questions, like, “When did you come out, are you out to your family, what do you do, or secretly, WHEN are you gonna do me?” I desperately need some conversation starters. How can I get to know someone without sounding like a scratched record?
– Hate repeating repeating myself
Dear Repeating Repeating:
The answer is to cut the canned crap and talk about what happened the day of your date—what you saw, experienced or felt. And stick to positive comments. Nobody wants to date cynical, bitter people–that’s what friends are for.
If you’re too nervous to wing it then remember a few fun-to-answer questions. For example: Bring up the X-men movies and ask, “Whose power would you rather have—Storm or Wolverine’s?” It’s just a version of the classic question, “Would you rather be able to fly like Superman or be invisible?”
My friend Patti Ellis reminds me a lot of Sarah Palin. They’re both “Momma Grizzly Bears.” Only Sara would let the predators eat her gay cubs and Patti would go Sigourney Weaver on them and yell, “Back off, bitch!”
Palin claims territorial Momma Grizzlyness, but only if her cubs are straight. If the predators stalked her gay cubs, slobbered over the thought of denying them the right to marry or serve in the military, and pounced on them to make it happen, what would Sara do?
Break out her recipe for bear cub pie.
That’s why you gotta love this video of Patti speaking at a street rally celebrating the overturning of Prop 8. Go Patti Bear!
Which gestures, expressions and postures make you more appealing and approachable? This video shows how even the most subtle body language can have an enormous emotional impact on how guys perceive you.
The country’s largest lawyers’ group has backed a resolution calling on all state legislatures to let same-sex couples get married.
The American Bar Association voted at its annual meeting Tuesday in San Francisco to support the measure sponsored by the New York State Bar Association.
New York State Bar Association President Stephen P. Younger says the resolution passed overwhelmingly, with only one speaker voicing opposition during debate.
The ABA’s approval comes days after a federal judge in San Francisco struck down California’s voter-approved same-sex marriage ban. Younger says the timing of the ABA’s vote is a coincidence.
Manhunt (“Dick Central”) is letting non-members see your profile and pictures. Does this mean your employer can Google you and see that beaver shot you posed with? Yes, says Queerty, my fave gay website. No, says Manhunt, my fave gay dating site.
Both make excellent points. Decide for yourself here.
